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The 100/0 Principle

The Story Behind The 100/0 Principle
by Al Ritter

Relationships surround us, confound us, and sometimes lead to our defeat. Think about the way you interact with others, about the way you approach relationships, about your expectations and assumptions. Are you unconsciously sabotaging yourself? Are you standing in the way of your own success?

The genesis of this book comes from 20-plus years of coaching, consulting, writing and speaking. I have learned that the most effective people at all levels and in all walks of life take full advantage of The 100/0 Principle. And you can too.

What is The 100/0 Principle? In a nutshell: You take full responsibility (the 100) for the relationship, expecting nothing (the 0) in return.

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Implementing The 100/0 Principle is not natural for most of us. It takes real commitment to the relationship and a good dose of self-discipline to think, act and give 100 percent.

The 100/0 Principle applies to those people in your life where the relationships are too important to react automatically or judgmentally. Each of us must determine the relationships to which this principle should apply. For most of us, it applies to work associates, customers, suppliers, family and friends.

This may strike you as strange, but here's the paradox: When you take authentic responsibility for a relationship, more often than not the other person quickly chooses to take responsibility as well. Consequently the 100/0 relationship quickly transforms into something approaching 100/100. When that occurs, true breakthroughs happen for the individuals involved, their teams, their organizations, and their families.

The 100/0 Principle aims to help you recognize certain relationship pitfalls, learn how to overcome them, and make every relationship great. Not only will you enjoy this book, but our prediction is it will significantly, and fairly easily change your life for the better!

Here's an excerpt from the book with some Tips for Making Every Relationship Great:

From The 100/0 Principle 
by Brian Tracy

Write it Down

Develop the habit of writing down action steps describing exactly what you will do to enhance the relationship. Include what will be done, who will do it (in this case, you), and by when.

Be Patient and Persistent

Roadblocks will occur as you use The 100/0 Principle. So be patient and be persistent. Take full responsibility for your relationships and reject the temptation to give up and return to the status quo.

Take Control

Stop asking, "Who's going to meet my needs?" and start asking, "Whose needs can I meet?" Think more about others than about yourself. This idea flies in the face of our natural tendency to be self absorbed. So give yourself permission to be uncomfortable as you implement The 100/0 Principle. When people contribute to others, they are more satisfied and deeply fulfilled.

Expect Nothing

A major cause of upset in any domain of life is thwarted expectations. We typically have expectations of how others will act or what they will do. Sometimes those expectations are explicit, such as a clear request for the other person to do something; sometimes the expectations are implicit, that is, unspoken and assumed. Either way, when our expectations are not met, we're angry or upset. Thwarted expectations are probably the biggest barrier to strong relationships. The 100/0 Principle, by definition, mitigates or even eliminates this problem. Since I don't have any expectations of you, I won't be disappointed or upset no matter what you do or don't do.

Form New Habits

When you practice the above tips, you form new habits. You get good at The 100/0 Principle without really thinking about it. These character-building habits can lead to true masterymastery of what really counts in life. As you practice it, a life-long habit will be formed, your discomfort will disappear and your life will be positively changed forever.What is success? Only you can define it in your own life. In my own life, I have attempted to define both Success and Significance.

To me, Success is secular. Significance is spiritual.

It doesn't matter how you define your own spirituality. Spiritual matters are always finer, deeper, and longer lasting than secular matters.

Success focuses on three Fs:

Although it is not intuitive or natural for most of us, The 100/0 Principle is not rocket science either.

Any of us can do it.

The 100/0 Principle is about the heart, not so much the head. Great selling, great customer service, great family and coworker relationships, great friendships and great leadership all comes primarily from the heart. In fact, in nearly every domain of our lives, if we have in our hearts the desire to serve others, we will be effective.

It's fundamentally about choosing to place our attention on others instead of ourselves. It's choosing to take full, 100 percent responsibility for our relationships with others by extending grace and kindness unconditionally. The old saying is true: If you want to change someone, change yourself first. Take responsibility for the relationship working, expect nothing in return, and watch what happens!

Today, I'm pleased to offer The 100/0 Principle for just $10.99. Our regular price is $15.95, a 31% savings. You'll also receive complimentary ground shipping per shipping address for all U.S. orders of $50 or more.

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All the best,
Mac Anderson
Mac Anderson

 






 

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